This blog is about the readers. I want to hear less of myself and more of you! So, I would like to pose a question for all of you to discuss.
What would you say is your most prominent irrational belief, and how does thinking that way affect you?
For those who aren’t sure, there are four types of irrational beliefs:
Demandingness – rigidly thinking that you, another person, or the world should be or behave a certain way (e.g., “My wife should understand my point of view!”)
Low Frustration Tolerance – thinking that you cannot tolerate or handle something (e.g., “I can’t stand this pain!”)
Awfulizing – making something worse than it is, such as saying that it is awful, or the worst thing in the world (e.g., “My life couldn’t be any worse!”)
Globalizing – rating an entire person, whether yourself or someone else, on a behavior or event (e.g., “My ex-husband is a no-good, completely rotten person!”)
To start the discussion, I most frequently catch myself saying that I won’t be able to handle some future event. Even after years of training and knowing that logically I will be able to stand it, my automatic thought is often that I won’t be able to. Consequently, I feel much more anxious about the future than necessary, and I end up thinking I am much more fragile than I really am.
Thankfully, I have practiced thinking rationally enough that I can challenge my irrational beliefs as soon as I become aware of them and feel less anxious fairly quickly. I have also noticed that the more I challenge my irrational thinking, the easier it becomes!
So, readers, what is the irrational belief that you tend to have, and how does it affect you?
And if nobody comments, I will be able to stand it.
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